Bernie stood in the lobby of a New York high rise as scores of people passed by. He was waiting nervously for his daughter, Deanne, now a grown and successful career woman with a family. She wasn’t expecting him nor did she desire his visit. When she saw him, she asked why he was there and reiterated that she didn’t want to see him. He asked her if she hated him. She looked at him blankly and said, “I don’t know you enough to hate you.”

That relationship, between two characters in the movie The Paper, is the last kind of relationship any dad wants with his daughter. That’s why it’s important for us to connect emotionally while our daughters are growing up. Daughters want to be known by their dads and to know their dads. If you are struggling to connect, here are 5 ways to overcome emotionally distant father-daughter relationships.