“Gabby, do your chores.” Pretty much every night, my middle daughter is repeatedly told to do her chores. Her job is to remove trash from the bathrooms and clean the floors. She knows to complete this task by 8 p.m.

Visit my house around 8 p.m. nightly and you’ll find me frustrated with my kids. I’m reacting to my kids’ behavior, letting myself be controlled by their actions rather than doing what I know to be right. But we need to act rather than react. That starts with knowing the ways dads should not react. Here are 3 deadly reactions dads must stop.